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    jaythedrizzlemcbride:

This is that bullshit.

my point exactly

    jaythedrizzlemcbride:

    This is that bullshit.

    my point exactly

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    — 1 week ago with 1871 notes
    "I gave you things I wasn’t sure I even had."

    Miranda July 

    Everything you love is here

    (via lovequotesrus)

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    — 1 month ago with 49251 notes
    "Until we have seen someone’s darkness, we don’t really know who they are. Until we have forgiven someone’s darkness, we don’t really know what love is."
    Marianne Williamson (via nirvikalpa)
      (via theladycheeky)

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    — 2 months ago with 50408 notes
    Things that you dont owe anyone (eventhough you think you do)

    Many choices we make in life—ranging from what we do, to how we conduct ourselves, and who we interact with—are subject to prying questions and commentary from those around us. Family members, friends, and even total strangers, it often seems like everyone has an opinion on the things we do, no matter how small or insignificant those things might seem to us.

    Sometimes people go so far as to ask you to explain yourself for the decisions or choices you make in your own life. You might feel obliged to respond, but some things are really no one else’s business and you don’t owe anyone an explanation at all for the following 15 things—though you think you do.

    1. YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE AN EXPLANATION FOR YOUR LIVING SITUATION.

    Whether you are cohabiting with your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend, crashing in different motel rooms across the country, or living with your parents for a while when you are past your twenties, you don’t have to explain yourself to anyone for who you live with and why if you don’t want to. If you are fully aware of your living situation, then it means you have your own reasons for being in that situation that are nobody else’s business.

    2. YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE AN EXPLANATION FOR YOUR LIFE PRIORITIES.

    You have your own ideas about the things that would make you and your loved ones truly comfortable and happy, which is your main priority. Since we are all unique individuals with different values, dreams and aspirations, your core priorities will be different from the next person’s. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for what you determine is your core priority in life. That is your personal business not other people’s business.

    3. YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE AN APOLOGY IF YOU ARE NOT SORRY.

    If you don’t regret your actions, still think someone is wrong about something or don’t care much for their forgiveness, you don’t have to apologize. Many people are too quick to offer apologies and try to mend wounds that are not yet ready to be mended, which only serves to aggravate the wound and bring more problems. You really don’t have to apologize if you are not sorry or your side of the story hasn’t been heard.

    4. YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE AN EXPLANATION FOR REQUIRING ALONE TIME.

    You might worry that you will come across as “rude,” “anti-social” or “aloof” when you cancel plans or other obligations because you need some time alone to reboot, unwind or just enjoy a good book by yourself. However, spending time alone is a completely normal, natural and necessary practice that more people should adopt. Take your alone time confidently because you don’t owe anybody an explanation for it.

    5. YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE YOUR AGREEMENT ON THEIR PERSONAL BELIEFS.

    Just because someone shares their personal beliefs passionately doesn’t mean you have to sit there and nod in approval to everything they say. If you don’t share in their beliefs, it is unfair to yourself and to the other person to suppress your own thoughts and feelings and pretend you agree with them. It’s okay and better to disagree with them gracefully instead of bottling up your disapproval and frustrations.

    6. YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE A YES TO EVERYTHING THEY SAY.

    You have a right to say no whenever there is no compelling reason to say yes. In fact, the most successful people in the world are those who have mastered the art of saying no to everything that is not a priority. Acknowledge other people’s kindness and be grateful for it, but don’t be afraid to politely decline anything that takes your focus away from your core goals and priorities. That’s how to get ahead.

    7. YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE AN EXPLANATION FOR YOUR PHYSICAL APPEARANCE.

    You might be slender, plump, tall, short, pretty, plain or whatever, but you don’t have to explain yourself to anyone for why you look how you do. Your physical appearance is your own business and you are obligated only to yourself. Physical appearance shouldn’t determine your self-worth.

    8. YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE AN EXPLANATION FOR YOUR FOOD PREFERENCES.

    There are certain foods that you just don’t like at all for different reasons, including taste preference and health issues. You don’t have to explain to anyone at all why you prefer certain foods. Your food preference is a matter that is best left to you. If anyone pesters you about why you are eating (or not eating) certain foods, shrug it off and just say you feel better eating (or not eating) those foods.

    9. YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE AN EXPLANATION FOR YOUR SEX LIFE.

    As long as it happens with another consenting adult, you don’t owe anyone an explanation for where, when and how you conduct your sex life. You can wait for marriage, try one-night stands or experiment with same sex encounters to your heart’s pleasure and still not have to explain your sexual preferences to anybody.

    10. YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE AN EXPLANATION FOR YOUR CAREER OR PERSONAL LIFE CHOICES.

    Sometimes circumstances force us to choose between work and “having a life.” The decision is not always easy and you might end up choosing work, not because you don’t care about your family or social life, but because you are working on something that will give you security in the future. Either way, you don’t owe others an explanation for choosing a career over your personal life (or vice versa) as long as you are confident about what you are doing and why you are doing it.

    11. YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE AN EXPLANATION FOR YOUR RELIGIOUS OR POLITICAL VIEWS.

    Whether you are a Democrat, Republican, Catholic, Protestant or Muslim, that is your own personal choice. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for why you are what you are and believe what you believe. If someone can’t accept you for who you are, that is their personal dogma—not yours.

    12. YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE AN EXPLANATION FOR BEING SINGLE.

    Whether you are single by design or by default that is nobody’s business. Being single is not a personality disorder. You are free to be in a relationship or not. Besides, you are far more than your relationship status and singlehood is just one of those social labels no one should really care about.

    13. YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE A DATE JUST BECAUSE THEY ASKED.

    Someone might be nice, good looking and you may even be a little interested, but you don’t owe them a date just because they ask. If you feel deep down you don’t want to go on that date, then don’t. You may offer a reason for declining, but keep it brief and stick to your decision.

    14. YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE AN EXPLANATION FOR YOUR DECISION ABOUT MARRIAGE.

    Whether or not you choose to get married and have kids or stay unmarried and be childfree, that is your own personal decision. Even your mom who is dying for grandchildren should understand that marriage is a personal decision and not suited for everyone. She should respect your decision about it no matter how hard it is to swallow.

    15. YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE AN EXPLANATION FOR YOUR RELATIONSHIP CHOICES.

    Sometimes people make inappropriate commentary about your romantic relationship(s), which is really none of their business. You might overhear comments like you are not the “perfect couple” or you should find someone else. However, you are not answerable to anyone but yourself for your relationship choices. Live your life and never, ever leave or stay in a relationship just because someone else says you have to. Make your own mistakes if you must, but learn from them always.


    Read more at http://www.the-open-mind.com/15-things-you-dont-owe-anyone-at-all-though-you-think-you-do/#MyVOw2wwumfdpYQE.99

    — 2 months ago with 1 note

    Poem called… “I dont know” by me…Dantise aka TheInfamousshe

    — 6 months ago with 2 notes
    #poetry  #love  #respect  #understanding  #exhale  #art  #spoken word  #random moments  #Dantise Brown  #@thainfamousshe  #expressyourself  #be you  #move  #get out your own way 
    jaythedrizzlemcbride:

the-cool-kid-69:

simplyjnguyen:

Twenty Dollars 
A well known speaker started off his seminar by holding up a $20 bill. In the room of 200, he asked. “Who would like this $20 bill?”
Hands started going up. He said, “I am going to give this $20 to one of you - but first, let me do this.” 
He proceeded to crumple the 20 dollar note up. He then asked. “Who still wants it?” Still the hands were up in the air.
“Well,” he replied, “what if I do this?” He dropped it on the
ground and started to grind it into the floor with his shoe. He picked it up, now crumpled and dirty. “Now, who still wants it?”
Still the hands went into the air.
“My friends, you have all learned a very valuable lesson. No
matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It was still worth $20.
Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We feel as though we are worthless; but no matter what happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value. 
Dirty or clean, crumpled or finely creased, you are still
priceless to those who love you. The worth of our lives comes, not in what we do or who we know, but by …WHO WE ARE.
You are special - don’t ever forget it.”

Woah

But who got the twenty dollars?

    jaythedrizzlemcbride:

    the-cool-kid-69:

    simplyjnguyen:

    Twenty Dollars 

    A well known speaker started off his seminar by holding up a $20 bill. In the room of 200, he asked. “Who would like this $20 bill?”

    Hands started going up. He said, “I am going to give this $20 to one of you - but first, let me do this.” 

    He proceeded to crumple the 20 dollar note up. He then asked. “Who still wants it?” Still the hands were up in the air.

    “Well,” he replied, “what if I do this?” He dropped it on the

    ground and started to grind it into the floor with his shoe. He picked it up, now crumpled and dirty. “Now, who still wants it?”

    Still the hands went into the air.

    “My friends, you have all learned a very valuable lesson. No

    matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It was still worth $20.

    Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We feel as though we are worthless; but no matter what happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value. 

    Dirty or clean, crumpled or finely creased, you are still

    priceless to those who love you. The worth of our lives comes, not in what we do or who we know, but by …WHO WE ARE.

    You are special - don’t ever forget it.”

    Woah

    But who got the twenty dollars?

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    — 7 months ago with 296427 notes
    We need to stop killing each other and have break dance battles to solve our issues like in the 80s.

     

    "I heard you was talkin shit, my nigga!"

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    "oh you got beef homeboi?"

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    "if you feeling froggy my nigga jump"

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    — 7 months ago with 10352 notes
    Knife and trigger

    When you try,

    to exist,

    People dont wanna see you happy so,

    They slit your wrist

    Except sometimes they go…

    a little higher…

    and set that heart thing in your chest

    On..Fire

    And once that happens, and your life turns to dust

    Then everybody wonders…why you dont trust,

    Then everybody wonders why you must

    And i sometimes wonder why i don’t spontaneously combust. 

    Its usually the ones closest

    Holding the knife and the trigger

    Shooting you in your chest, cutting the bullets out  because they are bitter

    But being the bigger person

    Means living with the dust leftover

    Being the lie ….that they tell over and over

    To be big….you need to have have room to grow

    and it doesnt mean that…..you have to put on a horse and pony show

    It means space is a state of mind…not necessarily a place

    I wont run away….this is a problem i will face. 

    — 7 months ago with 2 notes
    #poetry  #Random Journal Entry  #writing  #black art  #depression  #exression  #growth  #random thoghts  #dantise  #@theinfamousshe 
    My abusive relationship

    …where do i start…

    When your used to being that person who allows people to constantly talk to you any way they want….being conscious about how u saw things and what you say to them 24-7 and pretty much make it acceptable for someone to mistreat you….it can be quite a headache for the Changing process to actually be apart of you. It can also be quite the headache to have to put up with constantly being put down, being talked down to like a child, and getting used to people having no remorse or knowledge of your worth when they do talk to you like that. The reason why…..is because you don’t necessarily grow your stand your ground muscles overnight.  

    I’ve been working on changing my ways. whats acceptable…whats not acceptable. … stuff like that…and IM learning…that just because i change doesn’t mean that everybody else changes with me. I’m guessing because they are stuck….and don’t adapt to change well. This change in me is real because I’m seeing the results every day. My business is growing….slowly but surely…and i’m investing in myself. My product, and my well being. I’ve took the spotlight off of a lot of the distractions in my life…but as everything  would pan out….sometimes the storms come when they are least expected. 

    My storm is that a relative of mine has issues coping with situations because she was traumatized and has a lot going on mentally and physically medically. We have been really close since it was possible to be around her hang with her etc. Shes like my little sister. Her situation has always been rough and I’ve always been supportive towards her decisions and goals etc. The issue is that she has a nasty attitude and anytime something doesn’t completely go her way or somebody speaks against her decisions or confront her about being wrong….nothing good comes from it. What makes it worse is that her medical conditions are triggered when she flares up or stresses or gets upset. Which is why i try to avoid confrontation or raising my voice at her…even though its perfectly “OK” for her to do that to everyone else. I decided that it was all going to stop when she packed up all her stuff and moved out.

    The days that followed were odd because we roomed together and well….getting used to not seeing or being around her was different. Weeks past….didnt see her so now i’m used to enjoying having my own room. It was a different energy. Very fresh and exciting. Not filled with negativity…as it was in the days before. Something in me clicked. I realized that i had surrendered total control of my thoughts, my mind, my actions of of what this person and solely this person thought of me. And when i wasn’t doing that i was being a friend (in my eyes) standing by her side in the battles she had with life and being her shoulder, her ear to listen, whatever it is she needed because everybody else in her life seemed to always change and turn on her. I did everything in my power to assure her i wouldn’t be one of them. Later on i realized just how taxing it was on me to be by her side…all the time. It was rough on me because i put all my attention on her issues and when i did put attention on me it was to dabble in my photography and get up and go to work. That was it. I realized that my life was becoming as dried up as a moldy grape that turned into a raisin and powdered up and withered up and turned into dust. It has become a cycle of fruitless madness. I couldn’t embrace the fam i had around me or open myself to having relationships with them because she told me things to keep me away from the other people we lived with. Bad stories….or ugly things about them. ….the more i think about it the more i realize if i was on the outside looking in…i would be telling myself that this isn’t a healthy situation. The more i read over this post i realize…that its the same thing that happens in an abusive relationship. Matter of fact…that’s exactly what it was. When she left….the peace was amazing. I started getting along with my other relatives….and i felt like the things that i said mattered to some one that was someone other then me. I didn’t let their problems become me…but i helped in the ways i could. Her attitude was the “Bitch you cant tell me shit, who are you to even think about speaking against me, i know i have problems, im independant, everything ive done for myself is right cuz its got me this far so dont u dare say anything, i practically own you” 

    Yeah its challenging to deal with but i did because i never want my family to question where my loyalties were when it came to looking out for them or being someone who they could talk to…because i struggled with that coming up. When i needed somebody for that reason….it was hard for me to trust people because every time i did i got stabbed in the back or it came back to bite me in the ass later. When i was younger i was also abused and nobody seemed to give a shit when it happened so i guess thats when it registered in my brain to be acceptable. Thats why i struggle with change as well. Because every time change seemed to happen i always seemed to get the short end of the stick. Good things that would happen to me seemed like they would hesitate to happen. And when good things did happen it was held over my head or made known that i better appreciate it because it wouldn’t happen for another  My needs dreams wants or anything were always the last on every ones list. That’s when i made it my business to help make sure everybody did get everything they needed because i couldn’t imagine putting anybody else through what i was going through in my mind. I suppressed and suppressed and buried my emotions in the file cabinets in my brain because that’s what i was taught to do. And the few people who i actually opened up to…..ended up crushing me or turning on me with the information they had about me. The pain was unbearable and heartbreak became an all to familiar feeling. 

    I was always the one on the outside who was like id never be or engage in an abusive relationship. And as far as relationships like…intimate ones….i didnt allow it to happen. But I guess i never realized that it could happen to me and it did happen to me. So not being around this individual has helped me out alot mentally. Ive had space to think without being restricted because of being overly conscious of somebody else’s well being. Ive learned that there are just some things that i cant handle and Im not supposed to handle. Its God’s responsibility. 

    Just like it is to watch over me and take care of me. Just like it is for me to trust that he will always have my back and see me through this situation and all the other ones that come up. I decided to stop fighting with him and let him worry about the things that over crowd my mind and also to take away the things that i have allowed to consume my mind. Whats different about this change in me is that It includes God in it. Its not just about me growing and sowing….its about God being inside of me and being included in this move forward. 

    So the result of this is that ive decided that im going to love this relative as best as i know how without getting too close anymore. She said some really foul things about me and they were hurtful. It was like everything i did for her or times i was there disintegrated because things weren’t right in her world and in the end none of it meant anything to her.  Because her way of thinking can only be changed on her time…and my world doesn’t run on that clock. I don’t sit there and take it when she talks to me like i’m a child (shes younger then me) anymore, and i speak my mind and stand firm on what i say. I always felt the need to explain myself to her. No more. I’m Grown and growing. 

    The challenge is now… I’m sure in a couple of weeks or sooner i will be faced with a situation where were going to have to share space again. I will make the proper arrangements. But with meditation, prayer, and discipline the negative energy that radiates around her it will be filtered and not channeled to and through me. I won’t just take being talked to any old kind of way and i wont let her health condition be the reason i hold my tongue anymore. I love her but something has to give. 

    I pray that anybody else who is going through something similar….that you will be able to have the strength to seek God and help as well before it gets out of hand. Don’t let anybody’s energy stop you or depress you from being creative or doing what you love. 

    I’m learning more everyday.hopefully you can too,

    Dantise

    — 7 months ago with 1 note
    #abuse  #venting  #soapbox  #emotion  #strength  #problem solving  #writing  #random entry 
    "tuition" feat Jay Mcbride…. 
You either pay it….or it pays you 

    "tuition" feat Jay Mcbride…. 

    You either pay it….or it pays you 

    — 10 months ago
    #dantise brown  #@theinfamousshe  #photography 
    Heart Break Monopoly

    I have realized that my tongue is sharp and that my words cut deep, and  the next time you decide to try me i hope that you have enough sense to let that  bold ugly laceration  heal properly so that you dont make the same mistake doing the same fucking things over and over .I hope that  you choke and drown in your pride just so you can learn what it feels like to mentally suffocate and the value of someone or something who genuinely gives a damn about you really means to just save your life and walk away. Not giving a flying fifth of a damn weather or not she is commended for it. I hope that you know the difference between an investment towards your future and your aspirations in contrast to people expecting something in return and feeling like they have a say in the decisions that you make with whatever investment it was. I wish you understood the beauty of a risk  and not that of a donation given out in pity. I hope you understand and have enough sense to know that your future is important to more then just you and that your too powerful and posses a mind too beautiful to just have potential. I sew into things and people i believe in. I hope you realize that before i make up my mind to throw in the towel and keep it moving like a  science fair hypothesis connecting to a conclusion. i hope you understand that when i withdraw…i enter into a whole nother world shutting out those who shut me out when i wanted to help. those same people then turn their backs on me and then play my fucking heart strings like im a viola, and my mind is their stage, my heart is just another fucking music note, and their experiences with me were just another page…in their diary of madness….. a symphony of catastrophe…why the hell do i feel this way when he is supposedly “just a friend” to me i cant stomach this disgust and parallel monotony …..i guess its what you get when you play heartbreak monopoly. 

    — 10 months ago
    #poetry  #spoken word  #dantise  #theinfamousshe 
    self portraits

    self portraits

    — 10 months ago

    poeticslave:

    viiximcmxc:

    sheisapinkdarling:

    one day! 

    I’mma be apart of a fly, cute couple one day. 

    I’m tellin you. 

    Always reblog. I’ll find her soon

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    — 11 months ago with 5254 notes

    meganison-fire:

    Pretty sure I’m gonna rewatch this show, bc I’m fuckin’ feenin’ and season two isn’t out

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    — 11 months ago with 235120 notes